The Visibility Shift with Ellie Steinbrink

The Gap Between the Style You Want and the Choices You Make

Ellie Steinbrink Episode 25

A light bulb moment occurs when you finally acknowledge the gap between the woman you say you want to be and the choices you’re still making from an outdated identity. It often shows up when you admire the boldness, presence, and electricity of another woman’s style on a stage, yet immediately shrink back into safety the moment you get dressed.

If you’ve ever felt the pull toward a bolder, truer version of yourself, it’s time to question the unwritten rules you've inherited, confront the fears that still dress you each morning, and consider whether you’re waiting to feel ready or finally choosing alignment.

In this episode of The Visibility Shift, we’ll explore the tension between what you say you want and what you do instead. I’ll discuss the three most common reasons you sabotage your own style evolution, why old programming can’t create a new identity, and how your nervous system tricks you into believing that blending in is safer than being fully seen. I’ll also reveal why wanting authenticity isn’t the same as choosing it and why “looking polished” is often just a socially acceptable version of hiding.

00:59 - Discovery call that revealed a contradiction women often hold about their desire for boldness

3:11 - First reason why women resist authenticity in their style

4:18 - Client example of industry expectations quietly shaping style decisions without being questioned

5:35 - Exercise I do with clients that exposes the deeper fears beneath “standing out too much”

8:17 - The difference between being seen vs. being fully seen (and an honest check-in to see what kind of visibility you really want)

10:51 -  A challenge to the beliefs that readiness should arrive before action and authenticity is a choice, not a feeling

13:12 - Three powerful questions that help reveal the exact beliefs running your style decisions

15:37 - Invitation that distinguishes between simply looking polished and stepping into a style that reflects your real identity


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