The Visibility Shift with Ellie Steinbrink

Speaker Style Rules That Make You Forgettable (and What to Do Instead)

Ellie Steinbrink Episode 17

Have you ever opened an email before a speaking engagement and immediately spiraled into panic—not about your talk, but about your outfit? Perhaps the event planner listed a dozen dress code rules in it, like avoiding bright colors and patterns or coordinating with a brand palette. So then you find yourself standing in front of your closet, wondering if your signature look is “too much.”

But true visibility doesn’t come from blending in. It’s built on standing out with intention, clarity, and confidence. So let’s flip the script on the unspoken rules that can quietly dilute your personal brand.

In this episode of The Visibility Shift, you’ll be challenged to stop dressing for approval and start dressing for alignment instead. Through relatable client stories and impactful mindset shifts, I’ll reveal four speaker rules, explain why they don’t work, and redefine what it means to show up with presence, reclaim your visual identity, and lead with your brand first (not the rulebook). 

2:57 – How even seasoned speakers can fall into the trap of dimming their presence without realizing it

4:39 – Why dressing to match your audience doesn’t pass the sniff test

6:42 – How your brand color is just the beginning of something much more dynamic

9:10 – Why dressing for the background is an impossible limitation

11:03 – The weird rule that makes sense but always gets followed blindly when it shouldn’t

14:43 – Three things to take away from this episode (even if you remember nothing else)

18:10 – Brand as the feeling you leave people with


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